We love the concept of renewal.

Renew your energy. Renew your commitment. Renew your spirit. Renew your skin. Renew your wedding vows. Renew your faith. Renew your sex life.

Most of us are very familiar with the quest for renewal in some aspect of our lives or ourselves. How often, though, do we ponder what renewal really means? We tend to be focused on the path, the route, the methods, and the “keys” to renewal. Quicker is usually better.

Ironically, excessive or exclusive focus on the means rather than the essence and meaning of renewal can create obstacles to its achievement. In many cases, the essential element and quickest path to renewal is a simple shift in awareness and attention. Action is often more symbolic and secondary than necessary.

Renewal requires focus, contemplation, attention, and usually connection and engagement. Think about the last time you felt renewed, and if you think carefully you will likely see that something sparked a change in your attention and awareness.

If you are yearning for renewal in some aspect of yourself or your life, before you shift into action and embark on finding the quickest route to the end, experiment with investing some time in simply increasing your awareness, attention, and focus on the thing you want to renew. You might find that little other action is required, or that many of the “keys” are things right in front of you that you don’t normally take time to notice.

About The Author

Dr. Cilona is a licensed clinical psychologist, personal coach and author based in Manhattan. He also provides expert advice and commentary on relationships, pop culture, breaking news, and the latest research for numerous national magazines and newspapers, as well as many popular websites including The New York Times, Wall Street Journal, New York Daily News, Newsweek, New York Magazine, Boston Globe, Philadelphia Inquirer, NY Post, ABC News, Fox Business News, MSNBC,, Men’s Health, Women's Health, Health Magazine,  Cosmopolitan,  Glamour, Woman's Day, Therapy Times, Neurology Now, MSN Health & Fitness, Yahoo!, AOL Online, E! Online,, SmartMoney, and others.   Dr. Cilona specializes in working with high-profile and accomplished creative artists, entertainers and creative professionals in many fields including film, theater, television, fashion, art, music, production, advertising, marketing and journalism. He also works extensively with law professionals and the LGBT community. In addition to his work with private clients, Dr. Cilona works as a consultant for businesses around relationship and other psychology-related issues, as well as in mental health program development serving the underprivileged and chronically mentally ill. You can find out more about him on his website

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