One gay dad’s letter to Utah man who went on hunger strike against marriage equality


Trestin Meacham, a thirty-five-year-old man from Utah, allegedly went on a hunger strike, intending to refuse all food until the state nullified its recent decision to allow same-sex couples to get married. Meacham reportedly lost twenty-five pounds after he started his protest on December 21, surviving only on water and vitamins.

“I cannot stand by and do nothing while this evil takes root in my home,” Meacham wrote on his Facebook page, according to The Political Freakshow. “Some things in life are worth sacrificing one’s health and even life if necessary. I am but a man, and do not have the money and power to make any noticeable influence in our corrupt system. Nevertheless, I can do something that people in power cannot ignore.”

Initially, Meacham said that he would continue his hunger strike until Utah decides to nullify the court’s decision; however, when the Supreme Court ordered a halt of the marriages pending appeals, he chose to end his hunger strike. He posted on Twitter,

Either way, one gay dad believes that Meacham’s efforts are in vain.

In a comment piece written for GayStar News, Robert Watson explained that the same tactic had been “deployed by each of my two sons in their infancies.” According to Watson, each of his sons tried “belligerent refusals to eat, accompanied by tears and screams” over something they wanted but were not able to get.

Watson then wrote a letter to Meacham, explaining the ineffectiveness of his actions: 

I am probably an example of the last person on earth you would like to be hearing from right now. I am a gay dad with a same-sex partner, who is raising two sons, adopted as young infants from foster care.

I fight for the dignity of families like mine, and protection of the children in them, for their legal and ethical rights. I realize your mission is to ‘nullify’ families like mine out of existence, or at the very least, to disappear from view, stripped of protections or recognition.

The purpose of this letter is not to tell you we exist, and we will not go away, but rather, to give you feedback on your current state of self-starvation.


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