Former Miss Kentucky 2010 comes out as queer

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Miss Kentucky 2010, Djuan Trent, has publically come out as queer.

In her blog entry “Turning ‘They’ Into ‘We’,” she states, “For months I have been going back and forth with myself on what to write, how to write it, and when to post it. […] I have written and re-written and deleted and restarted this post more times than I care to share, and after all of that I have finally realized: ‘There ain’t nothin’ to it, but to do it.’ So, here we go folks…

I am queer.

The entry continues, “I could write about all the reasons I have been told I shouldn’t be gay (that’s an interesting list). I could write about all the times I talked about how gross it was when a girl had a crush on me, even though I may have secretly liked her too. I could write about how scared I have felt that I would have to watch friends and family members walk out of my life if I ever decided to come out. I could write about how disappointed I have been in myself for being an open supporter by day, and living it up in the safety of the closet by night. I could write books about all of those things…but what has really fueled my passion in writing today, has been this…

“Last week, U.S. District Judge John G. Heyburn II ruled that Kentucky’s prohibition violates the U.S. Constitution’s guarantee of equal protection under the law by treating queer folks ‘differently in a way that demeans them.’”

In something of an understatement, Trent writes, “You can imagine the conversation that this ruling has sparked amongst Kentuckians—those who support as well as those who oppose.”

She adds that she isn’t surprised by the range of reactions: “I mean, if people didn’t react that way, then there would be no need for a movement, no need to fight for OUR rights (ooh, ‘our’…that felt good).”

Trent continues, “what has prompted my writing today has been my questioning people’s constant assumption that a) I am hetero and b) I concur with their views and opinion. I would find it rather odd if a man walked up to me and expected me to agree that I should be paid less than my male counterparts. I would be baffled if a white person walked up to me and expected me to agree to use a different water fountain than my white counterparts. I would be baffled with these approaches because it should be seemingly easy for one to look at me and see that I am woman, just as it is also pretty obvious that I am black. But sometimes, I forget to put the ‘QUEER’ stamp on my forehead on my way out the door in the mornings. So, on the mornings that I forget my stamp, I have realized that there is really no way for people to know that I disagree with their views or, even moreso, to know that they are talking about me, unless I actually open my mouth and say it.”

“Coming out is a very personal process,” she acknowledges. “If you choose to keep it to yourself, you are well within your rights to do so.”

But, for those “who take that step in speaking up and speaking out,” she says, “Thank you for giving me the courage to change my ‘they’ to ‘we”, ‘them’ to ‘us’, and ‘their’ to ‘our.’ You have given me the courage to speak up and speak out when I forget my ‘QUEER’ stamp in the mornings. And I can only hope that I might inspire someone else in that same way.”

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