Demi Lovato’s latest single may be catchy and fun, but unfortunately, it reinforces the stereotype that same-sex flings are merely summertime affairs that end as soon the season does.
Released in early July, “Cool For the Summer” is filled with bi-curious pick-up lines that lead the audience to believe Lovato has kissed a girl before, and she definitely liked it.
The first few lines of Lovato’s new single seem to be encouraging girls to explore their sexuality and imply that it’s okay to be a woman who is attracted to another woman. The pop star sings, “Tell me what you like, what you want, its okay…Don’t be scared cause I’m your body type, just something that we wanna try.”
Sounds pretty pro-LGBT, right? I thought so—until I heard the next couple lines: “I’m a little curious too / I can keep a secret, could you?”
Then we get the hook, which despite my support for Lovatos’ music in the past, left me disappointed with the artist and frankly rubbed me the wrong way.
Lovato whispers the lyrics:
Don’t tell your mother
Kiss one another
Die for each other
We’re cool for the summer
Sexy, yes, but her lyrics also suggest that being intimate with another woman is just something girls do to satisfy their curiosity, it doesn’t have to mean anything serious, no one needs to know about it, and the attraction is cool but just for the summer.
“She’s in the driver’s seat for the first time in her career, and she’s going to sing about whatever she wants to sing about.”
Lovato has gone through many ups and downs over the last couple of years, and as a fan I’m honestly happy to see the artist feeling confident with who she is. She finally is able to sing about what she wants, and she has every right to, but what exactly is she singing about?
A song about sexual fluidity is beautiful, and everyone is entitled to experiment with any gender as “an experiment,” but when Lovato whispers the lyrics “don’t tell your mother” it only reminds me of the many lesbian, gay, and bisexual men and women who are still in the closet. Their desires don’t die with the summer; their families don’t think being sexually fluid is cool (for any season) so even if they want to, they cannot tell their mothers.
Sexual identity and confusion is not a trend to be marketed and the reality of other people’s lives shouldn’t be used as a hook, whether it is done intentionally or not.
Watch the lyric video below: