Five struggles queer indivduals face during their first same-sex relationship


It’s legal for same-sex couples to marry in all fifty US states, but that doesn’t mean the LGBT community’s struggle for acceptance is over. In a new video created by Buzzfeed, six individuals discuss the struggles queer people experience during their first same-sex relationship, and the result is hilariously accurate:

Keeping it a secret: being out without being out 

That first same-sex relationship can be hard, especially when one individual in the relationship still isn’t “out” to their family or friends. While being with a partner who is still “in the closet” can sometimes make things complicated, it’s important to remember that everyone’s coming out process is different and the decision to come out is ultimately up to the individual. 

Being confused for siblings: 

This occurs far too often. The only way around it is to make out, and sometimes you just have to tell people you’re a couple.

Bedroom questions: who’s the boy and who’s the girl?

For some reason, people think it’s okay to ask queer couples how gay sex works. It’s not appropriate and if you’re that curious, Google it. 

Meeting new people: constantly having to “come out” 

Coming out is not a singular event, but a process that queer individuals find themselves doing throughout their lifetime. LGBT folks often have to come out yet again every time they start a new job, make a new group of friends, or introduce their partner to an old acquaintance.

The future: holding hands in public 

Celebrities are slowly but surely changing the way society looks at sexuality; perhaps in the future, “coming out” as queer will be as foreign a concept as coming out as straight. As Kristen Stewart said an interview with Nylon, “in three or four years, there are going to be a whole lot more people who don’t think its necessary to figure our if you’re gay or straight. It’s like, just do your thing.”

Watch the video below:

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Eva Barragan is a Journalism student and an activist attending San Francisco State University. Sometimes appears at social events, other times appears in pajama's.

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