It’s legal for same-sex couples to marry in all fifty US states, but that doesn’t mean the LGBT community’s struggle for acceptance is over. In a new video created by Buzzfeed, six individuals discuss the struggles queer people experience during their first same-sex relationship, and the result is hilariously accurate:
Keeping it a secret: being out without being out
That first same-sex relationship can be hard, especially when one individual in the relationship still isn’t “out” to their family or friends. While being with a partner who is still “in the closet” can sometimes make things complicated, it’s important to remember that everyone’s coming out process is different and the decision to come out is ultimately up to the individual.
Being confused for siblings:
This occurs far too often. The only way around it is to make out, and sometimes you just have to tell people you’re a couple.
When you can tell the waiter is trying to determine if you’re brothers, friends, or dating. #gaycoupleproblems ðŸ´ðŸ˜
— Jack Rayder (@JackRayderXXX) October 24, 2014
Bedroom questions: who’s the boy and who’s the girl?
For some reason, people think it’s okay to ask queer couples how gay sex works. It’s not appropriate and if you’re that curious, Google it.
— Jan Pavel (@JanusPaulus) May 22, 2014
Meeting new people: constantly having to “come out”
Coming out is not a singular event, but a process that queer individuals find themselves doing throughout their lifetime. LGBT folks often have to come out yet again every time they start a new job, make a new group of friends, or introduce their partner to an old acquaintance.
The future: holding hands in public
Celebrities are slowly but surely changing the way society looks at sexuality; perhaps in the future, “coming out” as queer will be as foreign a concept as coming out as straight. As Kristen Stewart said an interview with Nylon, “in three or four years, there are going to be a whole lot more people who don’t think its necessary to figure our if you’re gay or straight. It’s like, just do your thing.”
“Can we hold hands in front of them?…” #GayCoupleProblems
— Kristin (@kristinnbrooke) September 27, 2014
Watch the video below: