If you’re a gay man who feels like gay culture is being appropriated by straight women for the purpose of a “good time” or “novelty” appeal, you’re not alone. As it turns out, RuPaul feels exactly the same way. In a candid (when isn’t it with Ru?) interview with Dinner Party Download, the legendary drag queen–but foremost cis gay man–explains his annoyance with the type of women who come to gay clubs to host their bachelorette parties
RuPaul laments, “People don’t know how to place me in their consciousness. They think, ‘Oh, you must be here to make me look good. That’s what gay guys are, right? You’re an accessory for my straight life.’ Just because your limited view is that everyone’s there to serve you and that you’re the only person in the world. It doesn’t work that way.”
This comment might come across as anathema to the sort of straight women who have long held the belief that they’re in a loving, committed Will and Grace type relationship, or, best of all, Karen and Jack relationship (the Will & Grace juggernaut is an entirely different can of worms regarding gay men and straight women dynamics). But maybe straight women everywhere ought to take a long, hard look in the mirror and ask themselves how many times they’ve spliced just a little bit out of the gay culture gene pool as though it was always their own. In this regard, sometimes it’s hard to know where symbiosis ends and blatant ripping off begins (Sex and the City is an example, even though it was Michael Patrick King and Darren Starr that willingly funneled their personalities into the illustrious quartet).
This doesn’t mean that gay men and women can’t be friends. That would be a real tragedy since men and women already can’t be friends. If When Harry Met Sally taught us anything. It just means that maybe the type of, shall we say, “Southern belles” having bachelorette parties in a gay bar as though it’s some sort of freak show source of entertainment need to be nixed. And they should no longer serve as the representative for all straight women “on the make” for a gay man, just as Donald Trump should not serve as the representative for all Americans.